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Tami

I too heard about Joanne's condition through the LPM Blog which led me to your wife's blog last week (for the first time). Thank you for taking the time to update us on Joanne's progress. I continue to pray for Joanne's complete recovery and that the Spirit of the Lord will continue to comfort you, your children and the rest of your family in the midst of this storm.

Missy

Dear Toben,

I came across Joanne's blog from another blog this morning. I have never visited this site before, nor do I know anything about your situation. However, this post brought me to tears. The words you wrote are absolutely beautiful, truly Christ-filled. You, Joanne and your family are most definitely in my prayers at this difficult time. Even in dark times, continue to let Christ lead your life and He will bring you peace, joy and understanding. May God bless you and your family.

Missy

wendy

Toben,
I wish I had the gift you have to express in words such a beautiful faith in our amazing God who is our ever-present comfort in these times of trouble. I love your vision of what Joanne is up to. This morning I was at the Einstein's that she and I first met for coffee, I walked by the table we sat at (crazy that after 4 years I can remember that!) and I nearly cried thinking I wish I could sit and talk to her now, but oh your vision of her talking with Jesus, how that makes me smile. That is awesome! Thank you for sharing with us and comforting so many during this very personal time. I know you have blessed all who read this!

Jody

Toben, I do not know and will probably never meet you, Joanne and your family (I read your blog thru Jill Bebee), but my thoughts and prayers are with you. Your words are so very soothing, I am guesssng that you share them with Joanne and
even in her coma she feels your love.

Mrs. Claus

When I first read about Joanne's stroke and her drug induced coma. I, too, wondered if she had the great opportunity to be sitting with Jesus and talking with Him. And honestly, I felt a little jealous. Is that weird? (Yes, you are a freak!)

Anyway! I can completely relate to your theological assumptions!

Praying and believing with you, that God is in control. Look how it has already affected so many!

Buff (nickname) Clark - INDIANA

I came over from Smithellaneous (Becky Smith's blog)...please know that I am praying for Joanne (also my name). I also have a grandson who is 14 months old who's name is Toban. I had never heard that name before my daughter and her husband named him. And yet, here is another! (only spelled a little differently)...
Today's blog has touched me deeply. My father in law passed away on Dec. 15, 2010 from a fall on the ice and a brain bleed. As he was taken off the ventilator, his family was gathered around his bed, singing, "IT IS WELL WITH MY SOUL", one of Pop's favorite hymns. My husband wrote on his blog later, that, yes, It WAS well with his soul...because we know where Pop is now..He was the most Godly man I have ever known and is celebrating in heaven with his Jesus.
Lord, you know that Pop had lived a good life; a long life...Joanne has lots of living still to do; a family to take care of. I pray just now that you will see fit to heal her and make her body whole again. Thank you Jesus. In your name I pray. AMEN.

Karene

Toben, I only know Joanne through her blog, Kristen's blog, and now your writing. But I feel such a connection with her. The Holy Spirit brings her to mind constantly and wakes me up to pray for her, and you.

Yesterday, I had the very same thought. That she was with Jesus for a time, and they were enjoying each other's presence. I believe she's going to have such a story to tell. Thank you for sharing your beautifully written updates. It is amazing that God does give us His peace that "transcends all understanding" during crises and trials, when we are still enough to let Him. Continuing to pray Psalm 46 over her.

My memory verse for this half of the month:

"I sought the Lord, and He answered me. He delivered me from all my fears." (Psalm 34:4)

I chose it because it applies to something in my life, but perhaps it will bring you comfort as well.

Karene in California

Katie

I only hope that one day my faith has filled me with the strength that you and Joanne are filled with. I am sending many prayers up today and my thoughts are with you. I linked to your blog today and hope God answers our prayers.

karen

Toben, I just came across your blog through another, and please know you have the thoughts and prayers and healing wishes of thousands pulling for you - My daughter suffered a TBI after a car accident and was in a coma for almost three weeks. I am happy to say four years later she is living a completely normal and fully functional life as a college student on the Dean's list. There was question in the beginning of whether she'd ever walk or talk again. I had a wooden word I kept nearby at all times to remind me during that horrible ordeal. BELIEVE. Keep talking to her. This is what we did and on the third week, she suddenly responded with a laugh...and then a few words days later..and then it just started coming back..slowly but surely.

Andrea S.

Dearest Toben,
I can so relate to the words that come from you. We went through this exact process with my father-in-law. He had been struggling with a bad heart and failing kidneys, and God was so precious with all he gave us with him. I look back and see how perfectly He lined things up for us. My kids had just spent the most precious 10 days of their life with him in Montana, he brought them home on Tuesday, and my husband and I got a few really good days with him, he left Thursday and had his stroke on Saturday. We drove to Denver a few weeks after his stroke, in the middle of August because we realized things were not going to turn out the way we hoped and prayed they would. That was the hardest trip of our lives, of our marriage, of our parenting...to have to come home and tell our kids he wasn't gonna make it was beyond painful. He lived for 3 more weeks and went home to Jesus on September 4th.

Not a day passes that we don't long for our Ted back. Not a day passes that our heartache is lessened, but God speaks to me so gently about all that he is doing in us and for us. Around Christmas time, which was rough, God told me "Andrea- I never make you walk through the valley without giving you something to gain." I still don't know what that is...I don't know what wisdom he will bless me with, but once we get through this valley, there is indeed blessing awaiting us on the other side. And today that's enough for me to cling to.

Toben you and I know that you will have good days and you will have awful days. But there is one constant that is always there, and it's God. He will be there to lift you and love you on the good days, and he will be the soften the fall on the bad days, and love you even more. Thank you for loving God, for loving your wife so fervently, and for loving your girls as you do. You are a very faithful man and it speaks volumes that you can praise God even in the storm!

Still praying for you day and night. And praying for your miracle!

In Him,
Andrea S.
Minnesota

Kim W

I think your 'idea' of Joanne having a conversation w/Jesus is probably very right on. After all, we don't know EVERYTHING of the spiritual realm. My MIL was a professing Christian, attended church (note: attended) all her life, but was not a nice person. I had opportunity to stand alone at her bedside just hours before her passing & I prayed that in her unconscious state that she was w/the Lord & that she was asking for forgiveness for her sins & receiving it...that this 'no where/limbo' land that her soul was in before her body expired was being used by the Lord so that we will be gloriously surprised, when our time comes, to see her in heaven.

We don't know what happens while our minds & souls are in that 'limbo' area, but the Lord does & He said that He would never leave us or forsake us. I believe that for a Christian it has to be a special time.

Prayers & blessings from Ohio...Kim<><

Ashley

Hi Toben. I found Joanne's blog through another blog and I just wanted to let you know that I am praying for your family. Even with all that you are going through, your writing is very inspiring and uplifting to me and I am sure to many others as well. You have an amazing attitude and such a strong faith in God.
Thank you for keeping us posted.

Diane

In prayer for Joanne, you and your family. Asking for God's Arms to wrap Himself around and the Great Physician to heal Joanne. God's love to you.

Jan

As I have prayed for Joanne and your family so often these last days, Toben, I have been prompted to ask God to commune with Joanne in her spirit...that He would show her great things that most of us will never have the opportunity to experience in this life. I think your picture of Jesus talking with Joanne is right on. Praise God for His incredible gift of peace, 'even so, it is well with my soul'.

Diane

Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful reminder of God's comfort that only He alone can bring during such difficult times. Several years ago my life brought me to a definition of joy that you just described so well...JOY...A deep settled confidence that God is in control of every detail of my life. I am praying for you and your family continually and I believe in a God of MIRACLES!!!

Mary Ann

Praise God. Your words are a mind-boggling affirmation of the peace of God, which does pass all understanding. I'm praying daily for you, Joanne, Audrey, and Emma. Thank you for taking time to post the updates on Joanne. I live in Alabama.

yanna westmoreland

I just spent some time reading the post from this morning...I see Houston, Bryan Texas, Zurich! Mesa Az, Queen Creek Az and many more! For a distraction as well as encouragment the girls might see if they can find all of the states and how many countries have prayer warriors busy lifting up their mom. If they get into this idea let us know if we need to contact Christians we know on our email list I have a friend in Scottland, family in Ohio...I just know we can cover the world with prayer for you Joanne! "God is bigger than any obstacle" Beth Moore :)

Lana

Isn't God good...We have been praying for peace...for you, the girls and Joanne.
I also have to think, God could just wipe this all away to the GREAT - Joanne would awake now and be healed.
But our Father in Heaven knows we couldn't take such glory...so for now, you, the girls, the family are safely hidden within the cleft of the rock...as the Father passes by...
First glance has been this peace you have...
Keep watching. The Father is walking...

Julie Reynolds

Wow, your gift with words is amazing! Thank you for sharing your heart - I do understand the concept of a "new kind of normal" and I think you might have just hit on what I missed - it is the peace of God, that peace beyond understanding in knowing that this will not be fun, it will not be easy, but we will go through, this circumstance,this trial has not come to stay-it will pass and when we are on the other side and your beautiful Joanne is at your side looking with her beautiful eyes on her daughters - Your attitude and your heart will have brought our Father much glory. Thank you Toben

Amanda

This has touched me deeper then you will ever know... thank you so much for sharing it all!!

Abbie B

Unbelieveable that you even take the time to reach out to those of us in Cyberspace you don't even know to share your story! You are an amazing testiment of faith to everyone around the world who have now been touched by your life and I am forever grateful for you sharing your story and sharing your intimate thoughts with us.

julie

Continuing to pray for all of you.... what another beautiful post conveying your faith and love.

Dionna

Your post brought me to tears. I pray that someone reading it will see the peace that you have despite your circumstances and that their life will be profoundly drawn to Christ because of it.

Heidi St. John

Joanne is a blessed woman to have you by her side. You're setting the bar high for walking through suffering, brother!

Our prayers continue - both for Joanne's recover and your continue peace as you lead your family.

Much prayer and love from our home to yours.
heidi

Patti

Toben, I am so blessed by your comments today. I have wrestled with the Lord over this and find myself wanting to tell Him how to do this thing....but then surrendering to Him to pray for His will be done. It's amazing to see all those who are pulled together "in His name". I thank God for "the peace that passes all understanding" that reigns in your life today.

amy

Your love and faith in spite of this situation is inspiring. The last paragraph that you wrote brought me to tears. Praying that the day that Jesus tells her to come back to you comes quickly and that she is fully restored. God bless!

kimberly mason

toben, that last part was really cool. in fact, i have thought i can't wait until Joanne wakes up and tells us something really cool about heaven. i can't wait until she sees how Christians all over the globe were praying for her and writing posts of encouragements both here and on the siesta blog. i know things look less than picturesq (no idea how to spell) on this side, but i pray that she is having the time of her life with Christ that we can't see, but sooner or later will listen to her tell. God bless you and your sweet family!

Keli Gwyn

What a beautiful expression of what was on your heart at that moment in time. I was in tears by the end. I'm so thankful God gave you the gift of peace today. May you feel His loving care as He wraps your family in His arms and upholds you during these difficult days.

Praying in Northern California.

hannah

Beautiful! thanks for sharing this, your perspective is an encouragement to me. God IS so amazing, praising Him for his continued work in your family's life. press on! Praying without ceasing! xo

Claire

I've just found your blog via 'A Bushel and a Peck'. A God thing as I have stumbled across this 'by accident' but am also a believer and so will be praying for Joanne and our family. I'll also be passing on this prayer request to my friends at church. Much love and prayers, Claire. London England.xx

christy

I agree with you. Your wife seems like an amazing woman. I have so much enjoyed reading her blog, as she as lifted my spirits many times. You seem like an amazing husband, hang on to your faith, lean on your family.

Stephanie

You don't know me, but I first read a prayer request on Living Proof Ministries blog. I am praying for your wife and family. We lost a child while I was pregnant last year and I have felt every single one of the things that you posted about. It's such an amazing feeling! Thanks for sharing.

God Bless

Carrie

Toben, your writing and the peace you are experiencing because of your faith is a blessing to all of us that have wondered and asked those same questions. You are living the peace many Christians cannot find even in their everyday lives. You are living the peace through a faith that we should all be striving for. We don't need to pray for a miracle because we are already witnessing it! We are blessed because you are sharing. I pray that we will witness many more miracles, including healing. May God continue to draw near to you and your family and wrap in peace and love.

Brenda Causey

Prayed last night with my children, that God would give you peace. Having been in the hospital several times with our youngest daughter, we have felt a peace that could only come from God. Glad you are feeling it too. Still praying for Joanne's full recovery.

Carolyn

Reading your blog takes me back 5 years to the time we were told that OUR Joanne would probably not survive a terrible car/bus crash. She was in a coma with a brain injury and was 38 years old, with three small children. Do you know that the name "Joanne" means "gracious gift of God"?

These are the words that the Holy Spirit brought to mind and used to comfort us...
Matt 7:
9"Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11 If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!

I am the Lord, the God of every person on the earth. Nothing is impossible for me.
Jeremiah 32:27

We knew that God would give her, her family, and us good gifts. IF He took her home, it would naturally be good for her to be in heaven with her Lord and somehow it would be good for her husband, her children and for us, her parents. I didn't know how, but I had to trust God. So, I just hung on.

I also treasured these quotes from Max Lucado and Corrie ten Boom "We need to hear that God is still in control. We need to hear that it’s not over until he says so. We need to hear that life’s mishaps and tragedies are not a reason to bail out. They are simply a reason to sit tight.

Corrie ten Boom used to say, When the train goes through a tunnel and the world gets dark, do you jump off? Of course not. You sit still and trust the engineer to get you through.”

The future was dark, we didn't know if we would get her back. It took almost a year, but our Joanne is back mothering her family, driving, working part time, and leading Bible studies. Praise our loving Father, who gives us what is GOOD for us for He knows what is best.

I will pray for YOUR Joanne. May our Heavenly Father, who loves us even more than we can fathom, give His perfect and loving gifts to Joanne, to you and your family.

In Him,
Joanne's mother

Meryl

I remember the several times you've written here in place of Joanne before and I've always been quite entertained. Lately, it's been to thankfully update everyone. But this entry is truly beautiful and so touching.

I don't know Joanne personally, but I've followed her blog for a while. I think about her and pray for her everyday.

Amy

I don't know you personally, but I heard about your situation from Angie Smith's blog & have been praying. I can relate to so much of what you said ~ especially questions you've faced as a believer. My situation is different ~ my husband has cancer, and though it hasn't metastasized at this point, there's a 50-60% chance it will. If it does, it's terminal. And he will never be declared cancer free. I have felt moments of doubt over the past couple of years, but God is awesome in how He gives that peace that passes understanding. And I too know the TRUTH in those big questions. Anyways, I thought you said it all so well. Your family continues to be in my prayers!

Russ Mayfield

Toben , we have never met ; The Lord lead me to speak to you friend because I have something to share with you.On June 30 , 2009 , at 2:30 in the afternoon my wife of 10 years left the roadway and collided with a tree.She broke every bone in her face and head , all of her ribs , collapsed both lungs , damaged her liver , broke her hips and both legs severly above and below the knee.Her scalp was torn away.I was told she had two seperate brain injuries - either one would be fatal.
After a week I was told she might possibley live , but would never wake up. After she awoke I was told she would be a vegetable. I was told she would never walk.
After about 6 weeks she opened her eyes and looked at me and I knew she knew me , she gave me "my"smile.When they took the trach out and she could speak she told me she could hear them saying she would die , and she was trying to tell them she WAS NOT!They took muscle from her back and reattached her right leg.When I awoke this morning she WALKED into the kitchen and brought me my coffee , then hugged me and said "I love you" as I left for work. What you are going through is near unbearable , and it may get harder ; but Doctors don't know everything, and my God does - you must believe there is nothing we can do without his authority , and believe that he will care for his children - a childlike faith - He will complete his will on His time , not ours.I know how much you hurt right now and just know I too , along with these many people send prayer for you and your wife and family each day.If I can be of any help or just talk please don't hesitate to contact me. Russ Mayfield , Montgomery , Tx.

Heather

You painted such an amazing picture in your last paragraph, brought me to tears. (happy ones :-) Praying for your wife family.
"Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow"

Debbie

Toben: As a believer, so many times I have wondered how I would react in truly terrible circumstances and your words are a great encouragement to me! Ironic that, even in your awful situation, YOU are an encouragement to ME! Sending prayers and love to you all ...

Shannon Roberts

Please continue to pour your spirit out on the "pages" of this blog. You are ministering to us as you sit in the midst of your own storm. The Apostle Paul would give you a hardy "amen" if he were there with you. As I type this I think of the hymn "It Is Well With My Soul". You are walking out an example of the peace of God for us all to watch. We truly sit in amazement, with pen and paper in hand, writing down all that we are learning from you. As you mentioned, you are not perfect. There may be days where you find it much more difficult to speak of the peace of God, BUT we love those parts too because it tells us you are real. It gives us hope. You, Toben and Joanne, are giving us hope. You are teaching us to lean on The Rock. You show us that He is faithful and utterly trustworthy. Be encouraged. You have many that are praying for your beautiful bride, as you well know. May you both be sustained until He sends her back home.
May the blessings of the Lord be upon you!

Tania

Toben, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I really wish you and your family all the best. As someone who works in an ICU and gets exactly what you're saying, please hear me. Listen to your doctors. Hear what they are telling you. And in the worst case scenario, think not what you or your children need, but what SHE would want. Those who haven't seen what I have seen may not understand my words, but please know that I wish for your wife to recover so that she can again be joyful and vital. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

Terry Rayburn Mitchell

Just lovely, Toben. I'm so glad that Joanne is stable and that you are feeling at peace. It sounds as if your girls are adjusting too, and I'm sure that will ease your worries and make it possible for you to keep going. I'm pretty sure that's all you need to do right now (though that's quite a lot): Keep going, keep caring for Joanne and your girls, and let God love and care for you. I continue to pray, and I'll be asking my older granddaughter, Kylie, who's five, to remember you in her prayers, as well. She's a first-class pray-er, and she'll put her little heart into every word. God bless you and all three of your girls. (And as the mother of a grown-up son who has two wonderful little girls, I want to ask God to bless Joanne's parents, too; I can't imagine what they're feeling right now.)

Christi

You and your family are in our prayers. I love the picture you left in my mind of her and Jesus having a talk. You are a very gifted writer. Thank you for sharing this with us.

Joni

Beautiful words. I admire your strength and honesty. I only know of your wife from the LPM blog, but we are sisters in Christ. I will continue to pray for her, and for you and your girls.

Marcie

I am new to Joanne's blog (last night, couldn't stop reading) via Angie Smith's blog. I am praying for Joanne's full recovery; I love the image of her conversing with God and being told to go back. May it be so and may it be soon. Although, if she is conversing with God, she might not be in a big hurry. I'll continue to follow Joanne's journey - your journey, too - and will continue to pray for her, for you, for your girls (ours are 6 & 4) and the obvious huge number of people who love her. May you all be held up before Him and may He grant complete healing.

Heather Ward

I don't know your family, but I read about Joanne on Angie Smith's blog and I have been following this blog since Joanne's stroke.
I just wanted to say to you that this post has moved me beyond words. I know EXACTLY the feeling of peace and comfort that you speak of. It is so undescribable, yet, you have described it so eloquently here. Thank you for that, you have touched my heart with your love for your wife and your trust in God.
My prayers are with you, Joanne, and your girls.
In HIS love,
Heather Ward
Salisbury, NC

Susie Tiemeyer

I love the idea that Joanne is interacting with Jesus now...why not?

And, I'll be praying for your 2 girls, that they transition easily into their new school.

andrea

Hello, this was the first time I have ever read your blog...and your answer was correct, yes He can give you peace, I praise His name for doing this for you. I will continue to read your blog and start to pray for your wife. He will do amazing things in our life to bring glory to His name.

May the peace of the Lord be with you,
Andrea

Brittany Heckenberg

I am so sorry to hear there. This hits home and it deeply saddness me. My husband was just released from the hospital after 12 days at Swedish with blood clots in the majority of his veins in the brain. I know what you are all going through and if you have any questions about care and doctors, please don't hesitate to contact me. This is all real real fresh and my heart aches for you all. He hears our pleas for mercy He sees us when we hit our knees He is with you.

adrienne

grateful that you have peace in this time. Prayers keep going up...

Adrienne
Jasper, TN

 Kara

Psalms 91:4

Kendra @ www.abusywomanslife.com

I am praying for you and your family. God IS there!

Amy

Beautiful. Still praying. Appropriate there's a recliner in the ICU room, so you're sitting there with your wife. I always loved it on the blog when she'd share about your morning meetings and the chairs in your room. Just as you can picture her with the Lord now, I know He is with you too as you sit in that chair. Blessings and praising God for His Peace.

Arneta

I totally understand what your saying...and to me it makes perfect sense...my husband died suddenly..i was a widow with 4 children at the age of 38...yet in the midst of my darkest hours..i felt God...and I answered those very same questions..that very same way...I am praying for God's continued peace...and for that moment when she opens her eyes....and there you are...her devoted husband.

Lesia

I read that you had asked us to pray Psalm 46 for Joanne and when I came across verse 10, "Be still and know that I am God" I got this picture in my mind of her being so close to God right now while she's so still. It was a comforting thought to me, and I hope it is to you too.

Julie

Just wanted you to know that there are three of us praying here in the NW Suburbs of Chicago and my sister in MN is also praying.

karla

Wow, what else can I say...only God could enable you to feel these things. What a testimony that God IS there for us in our darkest hour.

Scott Peters

Toben,

We are thinking of you and your family. I can hardly imagine what you are going through. Like you, I love my wife beyond description and though I am not a believer, your words, strength and faith are inspiring to all.

We are thinking healing thoughts for all of you and hope that your prayers are answered.

Dusty Takle

Chills. Tears. And, filled with faith. Praying daily.

Erin

This was a wonderful, wisdom filled post.... continuing to pray for Joanne.

LeAnn

Praying for Joanne and asking my friends and family to pray too. I don't know a lot.. but I have been where you are.. and this I know: God is faithful.

Tom J

You and Joanne continue to be in my prayers brother.! Love ya

Trish S. from PA

Toben,

I have been following your wife's blog for the last week, and I kept wrestling with the idea of commenting ... until reading this post.

Exactly one month before Joanne suffered her stroke, my husband suffered what initially appeared to be a stroke. He was rushed to the hospital, unresponsive, where they found a "lesion" on his brain. He underwent a brain biopsy, then two days before Christmas ... diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor. My dear husband is only 40. Our little boy is not yet 3.

My husband's time in the hospital and the weeks since have been filled with fear, anguish and uncertainty ... yet in the midst of it all, a peace I can't explain. I've been a Christian nearly all my life, but I can say with conviction that I've never known the Lord as intimately as I have been growing to know Him during these dark days. And, though it may sound crazy to others, my ultimate prayer is that our situation, our suffering, would point others to Christ. I'll admit, it sounds a little crazy even to me - and I've had plenty of "Why?" moments in between - but it's that peace that passes understanding.

Thank you for so candidly sharing your family's journey; your faith is an encouragement to us during our own difficult time. I think of your family and pray for you daily. In addition to complete restoration and healing, which I'm believing both for my husband and your sweet Joanne, my prayer is that in our situations (to quote the songwriter Chris Tomlin) "all will see how GREAT is our God."

Jen

Alan Jackson - In The Garden Cut and paste below

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LW0WA8OSXZg&feature=fvw

I thought of your wife in the garden with Jesus. The second verse of this song is perfect for your family. He bids me go with a voice of hope His voice to me is calling. Bids her go with a voice of hope. Go back to her family that loves her.

Praying for you all especially your girls in the morning.

Sherree

You are so right to think as you do. There will come a time soon that your lovely wife will come back home to you and your family. My prayers are with your girls tomorrow. Great are the mercies of God.

Kristin Morris

I don't know you or Joanne but I am crying for you both now. I'm here because someone retweeted about your tragedy and I bring another heart to pray for Joanne's recovery. I turned 39 this month. Now I'm looking at my gift of time on this earth differently now after hearing your story and treasuring the time I have with my family even more than I did before. My precious Mother in Law died the day after Joanne had her stroke too. I wish we could have just skipped last week.

KP

Thank you. I received very bad news last night about my mother, and it has rocked my world. Today has been a huge struggle. Your words hit home and (strangely) are comforting. Never heard of you or your family until I followed this link from someone else, but I just wanted to say thank you for articulating some of the things I'm thinking.

Jennifer

Dear Toben,

My husband was in the hospital one year ago with kidney cancer. So much of what you write feels so familiar to me, like it was yesterday. You are so right about the peace that passes all understanding; I have never felt so HELD as I did those uncertain days in the hospital. I told myself and my kids (who are very near your kiddos ages) that we weren't even going to go to the "why?" place, this is where God has us so let's learn what He wants us to learn, cling to Him in trust and hope that He is glorified through our weakness. God is certainly shining through your story, your weakness. God is working and His hand is on your lovely wife and all of your family. My family is praying for healing, peace and strength for all of you.

And we know that IN ALL THINGS God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28

Jennifer

Sandra Deleon

Although I'm new to this. I am a strong believer in the power of prayer. I will pray for Joanne. I continue to pray for the husband and their children. Thanks for the updates.

The Coffins

Mr. Heim, Adruey and Ema, Thank you for sharing with the world your difficult times! All of us out here are been touched so deeply by the calmness and heavenly peace you are all experiencing! I am still in awe by Audrey's words, "This feels normal"! You are right only God himself can give a 12 year old, the peace that surpasses human understanding! I know Jesus is showing Mrs. Heim things that she is never seen, and is reaching all her love ones and all of us that know her, or know about her! What a blessing is to be a witness of God's plans and purpose in your lives, for His Honor and Glory!
Thank you Lord for all of their Lives, continue to pour peace in their hearts, soul, and mind! Knowing that your plans are greater! Together with all of you we continue to Call on to God He will continue to answer, and He will keep showing all of us things we have never seen! Jeremiah 33:3 "Nevertheless, I will bring health and healing to my people, and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security! :6

Susan Young

Your blog about Joanne and the book by Sarah Young "Jesus Calling" was sent to me by a friend. Sarah is my sister-in-law and I forwarded your blog to her. She prays daily for all those reading her book and will be happy to know it has been a blessing and comfort to you.

Jessica

I read about your wife's story on another blog, and I was drawn to follow-up. You write beautifully, and I know she will be so proud of you when she is able to go back and read these posts for herself. Praying for Joanne and your family!

deborah

wow...yes totally and completely so beautiful to commune with Jesus without the distractions of this life. That is what Audrey could sense the peace and beauty.
Absolutely amazing...to 'slow' down life and sit with Jesus. Toben, agreeing with you in the vision of Jesus saying, "Okay we've had enough time here...you need to go back now." Taste and see the LORD is good.

Ashley

Well, I don't know how theologically sound it is, but that's exactly what I have been praying for your wife. That she and Jesus would be talking, that she would be getting her "marching orders," for when she wakes up. We are body, soul and spirit...just because the body sleeps, doesn't mean the spirit does. I continue to believe she will wake up and serve Him again.

Elizabeth

Toben,

We have and will probably never meet but after reading this post I felt compelled to comment. You see, 10 years ago I went through something similar. Not a stroke but was a severe allergic reaction to the dye during an angiogram, stopped breathing and woke up the next day in ICU. Though I was unaware of what was going on, while unconcious I went to a very special place. It was glorious! My ancestors were there to greet me. I was in no pain, just comfort and peace. I can say that while they protected me from what was happening to my earthly body, my soul was safe. When the doctors finally got me stabble they told me it was time to go. Honestly, I didn't want to and they told me it wasn't my time yet and that there was still things God needed me to do. I believe Joanne is in that place and her companions will guide her as God plans.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Stay strong in your faith, God has plans for you all.

Elizabeth

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