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Siesta OC

Praying the LORD'S love and Peace over you specifically Toben! May GOD HIMSELF bless you today and following.

Julie Hoagland

Still praying and believing. Praying for Joanne's comfort and peace for you!


Bless your heart - praying!

Dina kiser

Toben I'm lifting you up in prayer for a big old hug from our heavenly Father!!! I know this has to be so incredibly hard to watch and take in as your beautiful wife goes through all this.
And praying for comfort for Joanne. I'm pretty sure that Jesus is standing right by her holding her hand through it all. We can't see Him, but He is there through it all, isn't that awesome to know!!! We serve such an awesome God! (((HUGS))) to the Heim family!


I am praying continuously! Thank you for allowing your brothers and sisters in Christ to share this burden with you and lift you and your dear family up to our heavenly Father in prayer.

Tiffany Morse

We love you and are praying for you and your whole family!


Praying for you right now Toben to be comforted by our "comforter" the Holy Spirit.

Allison Thomas

You have to read the book "Heaven is for real" is a true story about this 4 year old who is so sick and while in surgery, the angels take him to sit with Jesus, because he was so scared (even though sedated) during his surgery. God is holding her hand through all of this, making sure she is not scared. Praying for you all!!

Janet McDonald

Awww G May the Blessed and Wonderful Lord keep you and your Joanne! May we Bless and Praise the Name of the Lord Jehovah. He has everything under conrtol I believe! Praise the Merciful God Jesus!


Toben..I'm just speechless...I am praying for you. This must be so hard. You are doing great though...keep giving it to the Lord...He is our ALL..He is our Refuge...and He knows and cares.


I'm praying for all of you... each of you close to and loving on Joanne! May the Lord encourage your heart today!


Praying for you all! I am glad to see you are seeing some improvement. I pray that the Lord will strengthen you during this time. I know that it must be so hard to see someone you love suffer like this. God bless you all!


Your words made me think of words that God would say too, how He pains to see us suffer.

You will have to hold steadfast to your love and faith, and trust in the price of progress, there will be much suffering and frustration, your heart will shatter in ways you didn't think possible as her witness.

May God give you the courage to give thanks for the suffering because she lives.


Don't get used to it. Joanne is the next miracle. I continue to pray.


I hear you. I think it is so hard to watch my children or my husband be sick or in pain and that is hard because you can't do anything to fix it and I like to fix things. Praying that you will have peace in the face of these struggles and that you will feel how much Jesus is holding you in his arms right now.


Galatians 6:2 calls for us to "Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Praying that God will wrap you in His love today and that you'll feel the support of your brothers and sisters in Christ who continue to pray for you and your family.


I am so touched by your kind and loving words about your wife and family. They are all so lucky to have a strong man like you leading them through this tough time.

I don't know you or Joanne, but feel I have come to know you through your words. My heartfelt thoughts and prayers go out to you.

Thank you for sharing your trials and tribulations with us. Even though my life isn't perfect, you remind me what is important in life.

Dave Urbanski

Toben...been frequently checking your updates & staying in prayer for Joanne (as well as you & the girls). Christ's peace be upon all of you...(Dave) Urb(anski)

Linda E

I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling. I can only imagine. I learned of Joanne from Beth Moore's blog. I am praying daily for you all! Praying for God's gentle arms to surround you with love and peace for you to feel in a mighty way!!


Still thinking and praying for you all! What a joy to have such encouraging news - a little step forward every day ...


Close your eyes and breathe in deeply. Feel the Lord's arms around you. Let him carry you for a while. It is no burden for Him, just surrender.
Of course it is difficult to watch Joanne going through all of this. You would not be human, if it did not.
God Bless you, Toben.

Theresa Roach

We will just keep showering you all with prayers! Joanne is going to be so proud of how you have been right there for her! Blessings and hugs from Theresa in Georgia!


I think of Joanne daily. I have subscribed to your twitter updates so that I know how she's doing. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your girls.

Although I do not know you, I have gotten to know you through your updates and blogs posts. You all are such an amazing family.


I think we would rather bear the pain ourselves than to see one we love hurt. You are loving her so well through all of this. We are praying for your continued strength through this as well.


Praying for you, your children and your wife to feel comforted and to know that Jesus stands w/ you now hurting w/ you and crying w/ you. So many long days of the unknown and wishing and hoping and praying...we spent 2 months in the hospital w/ our son and they were the scariest and hardest. Remember you are there to speak for your wife as well, you are her guardian so speak up if you are concerned about anything. Know you are being prayed for all the way here in Maryland. Blessings to you and your family. Tress


May the Lord continue to give you strength! It has to be torture to see Joanne suffer. I'm thanking God that she's moving a little and praying for continued recovery.



Praying morning, noon, and night, for your sweet family. I have been following this blog for a couple of years and how I love it. I feel as though I know Joanne through her blog. Her words of encouragment and her down to earth attitude makes me feel as though I am sitting at the kitchen table drinking coffee with a dear friend. Prayers just seem to fall off my tongue, and this is comimg from someone that has always had a hard time praying. Well, not anymore.


Praying continuously for Joanne and your family! I saw on your tweet that God sent a friend just when you needed one. Remember He is our rock! He will provide! Know that you have an army of prayer warriors behind you!!!

Andie Dixon

I have not followed Joanne's blog so I can't say that I know her - I heard about her through Beth Moore and began to pray for her - but what I can say I know is that "boy,is she loved".... you are doing an awesome job - it is an honor to pray for you all...


Toben and Girls,
First of all, Happy birthday, Emma. Know that you are being prayed for by so many people. All of your family is on the hearts of so many brothers and sisters across this country. May God bless you. Thank you, Toben, for keeping us up to date regarding Joanne's progress. I pray comfort and peace for all of you. I will continue to pray for you all.

Kathy Rivera

Consider how much has happened in two weeks!! God has moved in powerful ways! Continuing to pray in Idaho. We must be on some spiritual 24 prayer cycle. So many of us wake in the night in all time zones with your family on our heart. Your Father loves each of you. A new supply of mercy is waiting each morning for Toben, Joanne, Audrey and Emma. Abide in Him!

Sue Speir

Praying for you, for Joanne, and the girls. It was really cool to see the post of her quoting scripture with the girls. I had never "seen" her before since I am new to the blog. What an amazing mom!
(I came over from Angie Smith's blog)
Happy birthday to Emma. She was so cute on the video as well.
And Audrey's post melted my heart - what a mature, well spoken young lady.
I know you are proud of both of them!!
Praying for you all. Be blessed!

kimberly mason

it wouldn't be right for you to get used to that. at least not in my opinion. i would try really hard to not accept that this is the "new normal". everyday wake up and say 'maybe this is the day that she is really awake, maybe this is the day that fill in the blank'. when she wakes up she will need not only your encouragement, but your unwillingness to let her use excuses for "i don't think i can do this or i don't think i can do that or this is just too hard." your believing that she can will strengthen her faith. don't make excuses for her. in faith expect God to do more than you could think or imagine. "Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations for ever and ever, Amen." Eph 3:20-21 God bless you Toben! May God strength you, Joanne, Audrey and Emma and may you learn what it means to fly on eagles wings!! You all are loved by so many!


I am so sorry. I cannot imagine. Praying you through!

Mary McKee

Toben, Kevin and I are checking back regularly to pray and praise with you and Joanne and her progress. We love you both dearly. Tell Joanna that we are thankful for her and grateful to you both for your ministry to others and love for Jesus.

blessings, Mary & Kevin McKee


Hi Toben,

Still praying daily for Joanne, your girls and you. I agree, Joanne and all of you have experienced such shocking news for 2 weeks now. I am a physical therapist and just want you to know that Joanne's PTs are trying to keep her joints mobile while she is unable to move them. So hopefully, when she does wake up, she won't have muscular contractures and joint stiffness. I continue to pray for her recovery and strength for you and the girls!! Kana


I don't know you or Joanne, but was introduced to this link by my niece. The Lord has prompted me to pray for you and your girls, and I check your posts each morning. Please know that your testimony is encouraging to those going difficult circumstances. To see the Lord honored even through such pain is remarkable. What a mighty God we serve! Will continue to hold you all up in prayer.


As a speech pathologist in a large trauma hospital, I am blessed to work with patients like your amazing wife every day. Though I can't even imagine how difficult it is to experience this as a family member, please know that once she gets this trach and peg, her rehabilitation will be so much easier and comfortable. The trach will not exclude her from being able to talk, as there are manipulations that can be done, when she's ready. And the PEG will provide sweet relief from that annoying tube hanging out of her nose. I will continue to pray for you all, and rejoice that she has such a supportive and loyal family that will be right by her side for her journey.


God bless your heart Toben. I've been following since I read on the LPM blog, never commented before now. THIS post moved me to comment. Praying that you will continue to be encouraged.

Rhonda McCormick

Deuteronomy 1:30 says, "The Lord your God who goes before you will Himself fight on your behalf ..." How amazing to know that our Almighty Father is going before Joanne and fighting on her behalf, just as he is for you and your beautiful daughters. I am lifting your whole family up in prayer to the Lord. Honestly, I don't even know exactly what to pray for, but God knows every anxious moment you are having and I pray that you all feel His presence in a mighty way. Blessings from Morehead, Kentucky.

Lana D

Still praying in Sugar Land, TX.
Happy Birthday Emma...


Praying and weeping in prayer before the Lord for penance for you, Joanne and the girls. The Lord has each one of you in his arms carrying you to the other side of this long journey of trails and faith reaching Hope!

A Group Hug from all of us to Joanne, Toben and the girls!


It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see.
--Henry David Thoreau

It has to be so hard for you. I've watched family members lie in Joanne's exact condition, so I get what you're saying. and I've helped rehab countless people back from it as a physical therapist.
Embrace it, every bit of anguish and pain and confusion and anger and even the fatigue... but cling to Hope, because what we don't see is the spirit realm, and He is there with her, and with you.

God bless you all Toben. May He carry you and encourage you for her sake, and your girls.

Tracy Stoffell

Have been praying for you, Joanne and the girls and will continue. Hang in there.

In Christ


I am continuing to pray for Joanne and your family. I can tell you from experience that my husband doesn't remember anything from much of his time in the hospital and inpatient rehab. The brain has a way of protecting itself as it heals and protecting your loved one from some pretty awful memories during the recovery period. He, in fact, had short term amnesia for about 6 weeks post injury. Also, there are some things they just cannot do for a while. Doesn't mean they won't be able to but insisting they can do something as a way of encouragement when they really can't can be very discouraging. Depression is common in brain injuries. My husband thankfully didn't suffer from depression but needed all my encouragement as well as acceptance of things that he was not able to do. I think if I had insisted he was able to do more than he could it would have been extremely discouraging to him. It is hard enough for them to "wake up" and all of a sudden have a dramatic change in themselves and not even really remember it happening. Just reading some comments and wanting to encourage you to always be accepting of Joanne where she is and yes, you can expect her to get better but also have to be okay with where she is each day for herself. We do have a God that is in the miracle business so go ahead and let yourself believe that he can and will heal Joanne but love her where she is at each step of the way!


Toben - praying especially for you right now, as you watch and wait... Joanne will treasure all these heartfelt posts you have written telling the world how deep your love is for her and your belief in her and in your God. Joanne is blessed to have you as her man and the love of her life... praying for you both.


Praying for peace and comfort for you both. Hugs to the girls and Happy Birthday to Emma. God has surrounded you all with a fortress of prayer warriors and you can bet Joanne feels our prayers.


Like so many others, I have only "known" you all since January 13, but I am honored to pray for you all. I have been compelled to pray for you at all hours of the day and night and believe that the Holy Spirit is leading this. I sense God is up to some way big stuff to unite so many of his children for your family. I too am blessed by your faith and honesty in this situation and will continue to lift you all up. Happy birthday, Emma! We share a birthday. Too bad my first double digit was 23 years ago! :) I saw pictures of your birthday dinner on your aunt's blog. Looks like you had fun! Hang in there Audrey. I remember the challenges of being your age. By God's grace and the support of your wonderful family (biological & faith) you will not only "get through it" but will thrive in time. Blessings to you all from NJ! Xoxo

Angie Thieszen

Certainly makes me think deeply about what God was feeling and thinking as his Son died on that cross for us. As you feel that pain, be assured that the God you serve and love has felt the same and will never let you go through this alone. With the same power He raised His Son from the dead, He will sustain you and heal your wife. Faith, peace, and unending support sent to you from Indiana!


I know that God is getting you through this, hour by hour. You can see it in what you say, in Joanne's progress, and on all the posts sent your way. Still, most of us cannot imagine what you are going through. Still praying for you, your girls, and your beautiful Joanne.
Barb from CNY
PS Happy Birthday Emma!


I didn't follow Joanne's blog nor do I know her from anywhere. Her story was posted on a homeschooling board (Five in a Row). We are praying for her and your family.


You guys don't know me (from WA state) and not sure how I came upon your blog, but want to share with you that my family has just gone through this and going through this.
I wanted to let you know that you are not alone in this journey you are embarking upon. There are many challenges and joys that will occur in the future days. You learn how much you are loved and cared for by people around you and those who don't know you and share in your journey. The one thing that brought peace and solace to my daughter and myself was the knowledge and understanding that Jesus Christ at the time of the atomnement not only suffered for our sins but he also suffered all the pains and anguish that I/we would feel. To know that in our darkest hours the Savior was in attendance, watching over the care of this most percious son and I know He is also watching over your wife. My prayers go out to you and your family. Tell your children that another Grandma out there is thinking and praying for them and their dear mother.

This is just a small idea what we went through. Last April my son-in-law was in the Neuro ICU for 22 days we almost lost him three different times that first night (his vitals kept crashing and when the doctor gave us his report it wasn't good). In the days to come miracles cointinued to happen and each time through inspiration to someone in our life, prayers were said and the right medical personal were always in place to catch a major medical problem and correct it before anything major and unreversable happened. My daughter lived in the hospital 24/7 for 74 days. They have two children 7 and 5 years old. By the grace of God and the miracle of the atonement and many prayers from people we knew and didn't know he is looking at returning to work the first of April a year after this journey started. May you feel the warmth and love of the Savior and of all those around you.

Child of God

Toben this is so hard. So many people are praying for you and I have no words of comfort. So I will give you a Bible verse...
Ephesians 3:14-19
14 For this reason I kneel before the Father, 15 from whom every family[a] in heaven and on earth derives its name. 16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

Praying and praying,

Laura M. =)

It is something you never get used to. I havae somewhat been in your shoes, my husband was in ICU for 4 weeks, 4 1/2 years ago. Reading your blog brought back so many memories for me. Like Joanne, he had a trach and PEG tube, spent time in an LTAC and had to learn to talk, walk, eat and all daily functions all over again. I've been through most of what you are going through now. I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that Brian being alive is due only to our Lord's grace and the miracle He performed in Brian's life. I am praying for Joanne. I am praying for God to touch her body, from her head to her toes, with His Healing hand and to restore her to what she was prior to this stroke. I Pray for you Toben, staying strong is what we are "supposed to do" but remember, we need breaks as well. We can't take care of our loved one if we don't take care of ourself. Make sure you get rest and eat healthy, Joanne would want you to do that. I'm praying for Emma & Audrey. I know God has them in the palm of His hand as well and I'll be praying that they are able to open up when they're ready. I'm so sorry for what you are going through but know that our God is Awesome, he performs Miracles, and I pray He has already performed that miracle for Joanne. God bless you. P.S. "Be still and know that I am God. I will be exalted in the heavens and the earth." Psalm 46:10

Lee Ann Lee

Just read these words on Ann Voskamp's blog.... "I am grateful today, for a husband who loves me even when I’m breaking
for oxygen…oxygen…oxygen…for friends and family who put aside what they need and sacrifice for us… their time, their sleep, etc., so they can throw us a lifeline…
that days like today come to an end and that He is faithful to provide His grace for each suffocating moment…"
Thanking God for providing YOU all of these things... that days like today come to an end and He IS faithful to provide HIS grace for each suffocating moment!


Toben-my heart broke for you tonight as I read the last two updates. I'm so thankful that a trauma nurse commented so you could be encouraged by her knowledge of what you are facing each day. Thankful for comments like the one above whose husband went through something similar and shared her wisdom with you. Thankful that we as the body can come alongside of you and love on your family through prayer and support! Thankful that we can wish your daughter a blessed birthday and knowing God is with her to fill her with a joy only He can during a time such as this. Thankful that even in the toughest moments you know that you know that you know HE IS THERE. He has not forsaken you and will continue to lift up your weary hands and strengthen your feeble knees. Clinging to His promises with you and trusting that He can and will do more than you ever dared possible through this season you are walking through. Thankful we can do it by faith in the ONE who is FAITHFUl and GOOD all of the time!

Blessings and prayers tonight! Jill and family in PA

miss chris

Still in fervent prayer for my friend, for you Toben, and your girls. I am convinced that God has exceptional plans for J. She's just got so much good left to do. With a heavy but hopeful heart,
Chris Carleton
KC Missouri


I found this blog randomly and have been reading for the past few weeks. I am a freshman in college and going into nursing. Toben, your updates have encouraged me to see the joy in everyday things.

To the Girls:
I have been reading these updates and even though my father had brain cancer and was in ICU for a few weeks, I cannot imagine the intensity of what you are experiencing right now. In keeping up with your story, I cannot stop praying and hoping that your Mom continues improving and recovers without too many delays. Don't ever lose hope!!

I will continue to pray for you and your wife. I can only imagine how hard it is to not know what is going to happen and to continue to stay strong for your daughters while you are trying to find strength for yourself. I can only hope that I can find and marry a man who will take care of me and love me as unconditionally as you love her!

Jacqui Kennemer

I have never commented on any of the posts this far but today after reading this, all I could say was..."UGH".

Praying for you guys from Oregon. My husband and I can't fathom what you are experiencing. Thank you for reminding us of how precious our moments are - every single one.


Happy Birthday Emma, Praying for y'all! Pam

Kristen McWilliams

A very happy birthday to sweet Emma...may she feel the love of all those around her including her Mommy! I have stood in your shoes Toben and know how difficult it is to watch your loved one endure SO much and to feel so helpless. But take heart knowing that when Joanne wakes...she won't remember any of it...she will only bask in the beautiful faces and love of her family that are there to greet her! Blessings and prayers continue to go out to you all!

Fran Shea

I didn't know about your blog until beth moore mentioned it and asked for prayers. I have kept up with it since and have been so moved by your journaling during this tough time! Your testimony shines through your pain. I was delighted to hear about joannes miraculous progress this week! Tell your girls hi for me. I'm a school principal and can relate to their first days of school experiences. They sound pretty courageous to me! Wish they were at my school!


Happy Birthday to Emma!
Still paying for you all here in Missouri!


Just want you to know I am still praying for you and your family!
Just remember Psalm 34:18
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
I pray for God's Holy Spirit to give you comfort and His Peace!!


Toben and family:
Prayers, hugs and a shoulder to lean on. The hugs and a shoulder are from our Lord, and the prayers are ongoing.

Happy Birthday Emma!

Best wishes.

April Brenes

Read this and thought of you and Joanne.

When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.
For I am the LORD, your God,
the Holy One of Israel, your Savior;
Isaiah 43: 2-3a

May Joanne pass through this stroke and not be vexed in any way. May she be completely restored.
May our compassionate Lord keep you and Joanne and your beautiful girls in perfect peace as you journey through these rough waters. In Jesus name. Amen

Praying in AZ.

Amelia in NC

Prayers continue.

ginger morris

Toben, I know I have never met you or Joanne but I have a feeling from reading her blog & communicating with the 2 of you that she would consider it a privilege to suffer. Maybe she would view it like James:
"Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing." James 1:2-4 Just a thought. :-) Still praying...

Pam Houston

Praying for you especially Toben, for the peace that passes all understanding. In praying tonight the LORD gave me this scripture as an encouragement for you and yours, and I pray it will be. "Therefore everyone who hears these words of Mine and acts on them, may be compared to a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rains fell, and the floods came and the winds blew and slammed against that house; and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock." You and your whole family is faithfully founded on the solid rock and His firm foundation, and you are shining forth as a light to the world, as you continue to walk out or shall we say "run the Ultra" in such transparency that you and Joanne are ministering around the world as a testimony to the power of prayer and a living faith in our One and Only. I am encouraged and challenged in my own walk with Jesus as a result. Thank you for your open heart and willingness to be transparent and authentic. Still praying, believing and cheering you on.


the peace of CHRIST is yours....not just any peace, but HIS own special peace. claim it. for yourself & your three beautiful ladies. rest in His peace & NEVER accept this as your new normal....not Yet. Not until JOANN says so!!! God bless. Prayers continue here in East Texas.

pamela mcdonald

Continuing to pray for God's wondrous peace and strength to cover ALL of you during this time. I continually go the Ephesians 3:20&21-Now unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think,by the power that worketh in us, unto Him be all glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all the ages, world without end. Amen.
To rest in the fact that God can do more than we can ask or even think?! Anyway, praying for your family and Happy Birthday, Emma.

Nancy Moehring

I'm Cindy B's mom-Praying for your family in Texas


This morning as I was praying Psalm 23, God reminded me that "He restores my soul". Praying that you will feel Him restoring your soul today!! He is at work restoring Joanne today too!!
Continuing to pray and Praising Him!
Our God is awesome!!
( I also pray The Lords Prayer every morning and that prayer also brings me comfort!!!)


Continuing in prayer in Mississippi.

Lisa Ramsey

When it comes to the Kingdom, suffering is productive and honoring to the Lord. It builds up a "fitness" for service.

Strange truth and hard to swallow in the flesh, I know. I am sorry for her suffering and for yours Toben.

But she is strong in the Lord and willing to endure this suffering and she has taken hold, firmly, of the healing hand of the Lord.

Believe me when I tell you she will be delivered from this and rewarded with an amazing ministry.

God bless both of you.

Mary Lynn

I was reminded recently that even when in a valley, The Good Shepherd never leaves us. He is there guiding us and giving us everything we need. (Ps. 23)The valleys are not forever in our lives but lead us to the mountains. The valleys are places where God is often preparing us for something and definitely a place that where we rely totally on the Good Shepherd. I pray that you and your family will continue to sense His presence and rely on Him in all of this and can see or will see how He will be glorified before so many. Our family here in Ohio praying for your family. We are so thankful for the good news you have shared but will pray for all you all will need in the upcoming hours,days and months.

Ruthy :o)

Bless your lovely heart....
May you KNOW that underneath and round about you are


We continue to lift all of you up daily; you are handling all of this with so much faith and patience. I always see "We'd like..." or "It would be great..." or "Looking forward to..." I am praising God for your accepting heart. I'm also praying that Audrey and school begin to mesh and she finds a place where she's loved and accepted, much like she felt at home with Joanne...and I'm praising God for Emma's birthday--double digits is a big deal! My heart is sighing for you right now, and I'm asking the God who so gently holds the universe to cradle all of you as you wait on Him. Praying for wisdom for your doctors as you put plans into place.

Tiffany @ Tea with Tiffany

You are in my prayers. So is Joanne and all of your family. Thank you for sharing the journey with us. We all love your family. Together we stand.

Toben, this is K-LOVE's encouraging word today... I hope that it encourages you. God hears us and is taking care of your girl in His time!!

I am praying to you because I know you will answer, O God. Bend down and listen as I pray.

~ Psalm 17:6, NLT


Leah's comment above (Jan 25, 7:06) is the best thing I've read lately Toben -- between Twitter, Facebook, and here. Having walked with sooo many families in rehab through exactly what you're walking through right now, I can promise you this is the best advice. Sometimes the best well meaning words of encouragement can be setups for feelings of frustration and disappointment if things don't happen fast enough. It's great for people to believe and claim victory for big things, but it can be overwhelming too hearing that all the time. As long as Joanne knows she's loved, she will handle everything in her path with your and her family's love and support. It's gonna be a long road ahead. We'll be praying you all through it! (As a PT, I'm also praying for her therapy team in advance, that God will put her with the best people for her and all of you to work together with... they're going to become like family to you too).

Kristi Walker

Praying for you, Toben!! I know it's not nearly the same thing, but 5 years ago my husband was a very sick man, and watching him have a large part of his colon removed, over 5 weeks in the hospital and 22 weeks out of work, made me feel so exhausted...and scared. Our God is mighty, and perfect. He is, even now, sitting upon his throne and in control. Our family will continue to lift yours up daily. Please know that you have so many unknown faces that love you as brothers and sister in our sweet Lord. He IS faithful!

Blessings, Kristi

Kim W

Toben - As I read some of the other comments, I realized that so many of us are united with you by similar experiences. I know personally how difficult it is to watch someone you love in the position you find yourself in right now. It is very difficult to be the one watching your loved one hurting. In my case, we were assured by the doctors and nurses that although it was bothering us, our loved one wasn't really aware of everything going on...kind of like you said about being there, but not really. I can tell you now several months after getting on the other side of it, in our case, that was absolutely the case. No memory of any of those days in ICU. Praise God! As difficult as it is to be the one observing, please be encouraged that Joanne will most likely not remember much, if anything, from this time in ICU. That is a blessing!


Toben, she would have felt the same way if she were in your shoes. I love how you are serving her. It is all about what Joanne needs right now and you are definitely following the guidance of The Great Physician. And our Wonderful Counselor. I sure pray that more friends will come along just in time for you. And that our Friend, Jesus, will be as faithful as He has promised...

Audrey, maybe you can be the one who encourages your daddy by praying for him outloud? It will comfort him so very much.

Emma, I think you have song to share with your daddy. Ask Jesus.

And for all the other family and friends, I am speaking Beth Moore's Commission to Faith over you. It's from her Believing God study and it's in her book, Further Still.

We need His wonders today...thank you for sharing each visible time you witness His Hand, His Voice and His Heart.

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